When You're in a Military Relationship
When you’re in a military relationship, nothing comes easy. Relationships are hard enough. Add distance as a factor and you’re faced with an even greater challenge. Throw in the military and it’s a whole new beast.
I’ve been told that I’m not really in a military relationship because my SO just finished boot camp and combat training. He isn’t in a war zone, we aren’t married, we don’t have kids, and we’re still young. For me, it’s another challenge I’ve faced. This lack of empathy. You’re strong though, and there are people just like you going through this same experience. Rise up to the challenge. Find others going through the same experience and be there for each other.
Not everyone gets to go through a military relationship. Not everyone gets to learn the lessons or go through the hardships. Not everyone finds the strength to be okay when faced with constant loneliness.
When you’re in a military relationship, distance can get to you. The physical distance, sometimes the emotional distance, sometimes just not getting the attention you need.
We’re continuously growing and changing, especially during this time of our lives. Your young adult years are so formative and such an amazing time to explore who you are. What are your views on life? Morals? Values? Beliefs? What’s your future like? You get to learn all about yourself when you’re in a military relationship because distance permits it.
When you’re in a military relationship, you fall so deeply in love, more than you could have ever imagined. You appreciate those 20-minute phone calls. You love those random selfies your SO sends you throughout the day. You love those good morning texts (that you get at 2 AM because it’s 5 AM their time). All those little things are unforgettable. You love the cheesiness and the romance. You love the laughs. Every day, you want to tell your SO how much you love them and every day you think about your future together.
Even though it’s hard when you’re in a military relationship, the love you have makes every moment apart worth it, and those moments spent together are the most precious gift of all.
Not everyone gets to go through a military relationship. Not everyone gets to learn the lessons or go through the hardships. Not everyone finds the strength to be okay when faced with constant loneliness.
When you’re in a military relationship, distance can get to you. The physical distance, sometimes the emotional distance, sometimes just not getting the attention you need.
You need to be okay with the distance. You need find yourself and find your life as an individual. Who are you outside of your relationship? What are things you like to do? What new adventures can you embark on while your SO is away?
Be honest with your SO. Don’t say “I’m fine” or “It’s okay” without really meaning it. It’s during this time that communication is so important. Be able to have mature conversations. Go into your conversations rationally, looking from the other side.
If distance gets to you, don’t yell and scream. Accept that bad days happen, and think of a brighter day to come.
When you’re in a military relationship, you learn more about yourself. You learn about your stress management, the way you handle being lonely, and your own identity. Most of you reading this are probably young adults between the ages of 18 and 25. We don’t have it all together and life is an ever-changing entity.
Be honest with your SO. Don’t say “I’m fine” or “It’s okay” without really meaning it. It’s during this time that communication is so important. Be able to have mature conversations. Go into your conversations rationally, looking from the other side.
If distance gets to you, don’t yell and scream. Accept that bad days happen, and think of a brighter day to come.
When you’re in a military relationship, you learn more about yourself. You learn about your stress management, the way you handle being lonely, and your own identity. Most of you reading this are probably young adults between the ages of 18 and 25. We don’t have it all together and life is an ever-changing entity.
When you’re in a military relationship, you fall so deeply in love, more than you could have ever imagined. You appreciate those 20-minute phone calls. You love those random selfies your SO sends you throughout the day. You love those good morning texts (that you get at 2 AM because it’s 5 AM their time). All those little things are unforgettable. You love the cheesiness and the romance. You love the laughs. Every day, you want to tell your SO how much you love them and every day you think about your future together.
Even though it’s hard when you’re in a military relationship, the love you have makes every moment apart worth it, and those moments spent together are the most precious gift of all.
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